Something to live by

***Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were MEANT to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach a lesson, or to help you figure out who YOU ARE or who u want to BECOME. U never know who these people may be but when u lock eyes with them, u know at that MOMENT they will affect your life in some profound way. Sometimes things happen to u that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in REFLECTION you find that without overcoming those obsticles u would have never REALIZED your potential, strength, will power, or heart. EVERYTHING happens 4 a reason, NOTHING happens by chance. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to TEST the limits of your SOUL. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable BUT dull and utterly pointless. The people u meet who affect your life and the success and downfalls u experience help to create who u r and who u become. EVEN the bad experiences can be learned from. IN FACT they are probably the most IMPORTANT ones. If someone hurts u, betrays you, or breaks your heart, FORGIVE them, for they have helped u learn about TRUST and the importance of being CAUTIOUS with your open heart. If someone LOVES u, love them back UNCONDITIONALLY, not only because they love u, but because in a way, they are TEACHING u to love and how to OPEN your heart and eyes to things. Let yourself fall in love.I've found that sometimes the road doesn't take you where you want to go, but you end up in places you'd never want to leave, with people you'd never dream of living without***

Why do People do This to Their Children?

I strongly believe there should be rules for what people can name their children. It is a shame to me that parents would do such a horrible thing to their child as to give them a name that they have to live with the rest of their lives to be unique or different. Leave that up to the child as they grow up. Now granted I have heard my fair share, I grew up with a mother who taught in the Portsmouth and Norfolk school system my whole life and she came across some names but they seem to only get worse as I get older. Let me give you some examples so you know just what I am talking about............

Orangejello and Lemonjello were some of the first I heard, yes it looks like orange jello and lemon jello but they would be pronounced (or-ang-ello and la-mon-gello)

Then of course there was Precious Flower and Jovian Laurel, as if her mother was shopping in her makeup bag as she chose her name.

There was also Syphillis (so-phyllis) its only spelled like the STD not pronounced as though.

Then I got a call a few months ago the name was SHADE yes I know shade like lamp only it was said (sha-day) you can't be serious.

There was also Female........said (fem-alley)

or Yvonne that would be (Y-VON-E) not yvonne like you may have thought.

Recently my mom told me a story about a friend who works at the early education center and a woman came in to register her children who's names were yourhynese, hishynese and herhynese. I almost died.

But today no doubt topped the cake. I took a new patient call at work and the poor child was 6 his name is Qweschun...............stumped yet? Yeah that would be pronounced question.

WHY?!?!?!?!?

I just don't understand can anyone explain it to me please. It is or to be original but not at your childs expense please people. I would love a good laugh if you have or know some to add please comment me.

Crosswalk

Every once and a while,a seemingly-simple email comes around that ends up being quite profound. This is one of them.

Awesome!! We complain about the cross we bear but don't realize it is preparing us for the dip in the road that God can see and we cannot.Whatever your cross,
whatever your pain,
there will always be sunshine, after the rain....
Perhaps you may stumble, perhaps even fall;
But God's always ready, to answer your call....
He knows every heartache, sees every tear,
a word from His lips, can calm every fear...
Your sorrows may linger, throughout the night,
But suddenly vanish, by dawn's early light...
The Savior is waiting, somewhere above,
to give you His grace, and send you His love.
May God fill your day with blessings!!

Garbage Trucks and a Philosophy Lesson

This one is great !!!!

How often do you let other people change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day? Unless you're the Terminator, for an instant you're probably set back on your heels. However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly she/he can get back her/his focus on what's important.

Five years ago I learned this lesson in the back of a taxi cab in Indianapolis . Here's what happened:

I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport . We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly.

So I asked, "Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!" This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, "The Law of the Garbage Truck." He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. I once knew a Pastor who would give the sign of the cross to such garbage haulers. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so . . . Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't.

A Good Lesson.......Letting Go

A learning lesson on LETTING GO

by Bishop T. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this: When people can walk away from you, let them walk.

I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you.

I mean, hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you...let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

(The Bible says that "they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us." [1 John 2:19] )

People leave you because they are not really joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. Let them go.

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.

You've got to know when it's dead. You've got to know when it's over.

Let me tell you something: I've got the gift of good-bye. It's the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in "good-bye".

It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it.

Stop begging people to stay. Let them go!!! If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to ... LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ... LET IT GO!!!

If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth. LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you ... LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge ... LET IT GO!!!

Absolutely Amazing

Absolutely amazing, particularly if your eyes glaze over when someone says "mathematics".

That someone worked awfully hard formulating this. Be sure to follow it to the end!


Beauty of Math!

1 x 8 + 1 = 9

12 x 8 + 2 = 98

123 x 8 + 3 = 987

1234 x 8 + 4 = 9876

12345 x 8 + 5 = 98765

123456 x 8 + 6 = 987654

1234567 x 8 + 7 = 9876543

12345678 x 8 + 8 = 98765432

123456789 x 8 + 9 = 987654321

1 x 9 + 2 = 11

12 x 9 + 3 = 111

123 x 9 + 4 = 1111

1234 x 9 + 5 = 11111

12345 x 9 + 6 = 111111

123456 x 9 + 7 = 1111111

1234567 x 9 + 8 = 11111111

12345678 x 9 + 9 = 111111111

123456789 x 9 +10= 1111111111

9 x 9 + 7 = 88

98 x 9 + 6 = 888

987 x 9 + 5 = 8888

9876 x 9 + 4 = 88888

98765 x 9 + 3 = 888888

987654 x 9 + 2 = 8888888

9876543 x 9 + 1 = 88888888

98765432 x 9 + 0 = 888888888

Brilliant, isn't it?

And look at this symmetry:

1 x 1 = 1

11 x 11 = 121

111 x 111 = 12321

1111 x 1111 = 1234321

11111 x 11111 = 123454321

111111 x 111111 = 12345654321

1111111 x 1111111 = 1234567654321

11111111 x 11111111 = 123456787654321

111111111 x 111111111= 123456789 87654321

Now, take a look at this...101%

From a strictly mathematical viewpoint:What Equals 100%?

What does it mean to give MORE than 100%?Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%? We have all been in situations where someone wants you to
GIVE OVER 100%.How about ACHIEVING 101%?What equals 100% in life?

Here's a little mathematical formula that might help
answer these questions:

If:A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z

Is represented as:1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26.

If:H-A-R-D-W-O- R- K

8+1+18+4+23+ 15+18+11 = 98%

And:K-N-O-W-L-E- D-G-E

11+14+15+23+ 12+5+4+7+ 5 = 96%

But:A-T-T-I-T-U- D-E

1+20+20+9+20+ 21+4+5 = 100%

THEN, look how far the love of God will take you:

L-O-V-E-O-F- G-O-D

12+15+22+5+15+ 6+7+15+4 = 101%

Therefore, one can conclude with mathematical certainty that:

While Hard Work and Knowledge will get you close, and Attitude will get you there, It's the Love of God that will put you over the top!

Men to Avoid

I wish someone would have shared this with me long ago. After a 1 AM phone call from an ex last night I wish some men would just learn. Will he ever stop saying he was young he didn't know any better? Yeah so was I, so what, it still does not justify the hell you put me through for years. Sorry I got wise and moved on and that crushed your heart, how do you think mine felt through 4 years of a cheating man who claimed to love me? Lets not start comparing heartaches I'll beat you every time. Apparently he forgot what I went through, or apparently he just doesn't care. I'm sick of the I didn't know what I had till it was gone, but you said you loved me and you left me. Yeah I did love him but apparently our definitions of love were lost in translation somewhere along the line. I'm better without him, so stop with the 1 and 2 AM I miss you trying to get some, is there any chance phone calls, that chapter has been closed for years move on. Oh and for the record I know about your girlfriend the one you haven't claimed for the last year, yeah her I'm sure she would love to know you're still calling. Some things never change, like some men's ability to tell the truth. I can be your friend but I don't want to be you "friend". Thanks but no thanks. Bitter, who me, NEVER. Ladies here's some pointers please take heed.


MEN TO AVOID. PERIOD.

1.His idea of talking dirty in bed is telling you he has a cock.

2.If he wants to cook you a romantic dinner on the second date, he's cheap.

3.The guy who believes a "meaningful conversation" includes quoting The Simpsons, Ben Stiller flicks, and any trilogy.

4.He owns anything Sean John, and lounges in velour. Ew.

5.If he paws at his balls and responds with a, "Ohhh, yeah, those are ripe." He'll probably always prefer the smell of his own soggy balls and farts to your perfumed skin. Be the umpire and throw his foul balls out.

6. He drinks pink adult beverages claiming he's fine with his sexuality. You'll have to fight over your china pattern, bedding fabric, and candle scent. And he'll critique your shoes.

7.If he favors generic vanilla wafer cookies, just-add-water products, and frozen chicken wings, your life together will be as slow as the people who work at Duane Reade.

8.If he refers to himself as "pappi" get a restraining order.

9.If he rides the cart at the supermarket, and you're hoping he'll grow out of it once your basket is filled with Luvs, find another love.

10.He says he's got a lot of stuff to do first thing the next morning… playing the quelle cool-hand-luke card. "A lot of stuff" involves "taking a shit." Period.

11.When he examines all the flatware and then polishes it with his napkin while you're out to dinner, he's a control freak who will obsess over the organization of your entire life, right down to the coat closet.

12.If the Ken in your life calls you "dude," or emails "whut up?" send him Skippers way. He's not ready for Barbie.

13.His idea of clever is, "I'm just joshing." You might want to keep this one around, actually. You'll lose at least five pounds of holiday bloat with all the vomiting.

14.The Oral Sex South Beach Dieter: if he won't eat carbs, he'll suck at eating you in bed.

15.His "cool wardrobe" consists of the windows of Banana Republic and Brooks Brothers. He doesn't know from risks, and your life together will be dreary.

16.If he whines, squeals, or giggles, you'll have to constantly remind yourself he's not the one with the ovaries.

17.If his face turns red and he gets tight-lipped when you kick his ass at Scrabble, he's a loser in more ways than one.

18.The 007 who convinces you he's suave with his half-stand at the dinner table, myriad hard-to-obtain-reservations, and imposing vocabulary until you hear him whine to his mother.

19.If he can't IM you and still get his work done, he's a horrible multi-tasker; you'll never achieve simultaneous orgasms.

20.He pulls a loose strand of hair aside for you, tucking it behind your ear on the second date. It's his power move, and it's never sincere.

21.He still wants to go to Turks & Caicos Club Med. Enough said.

22.If he doesn't put the moves on by the end of the third date, he's terrible at closing other deals, too. Take heed.

23.Bankers or hedgefunders who still consider themselves bankers past the age of 29; they're insecure and hopelessly dull.

24.Surgeons. They've got a sloppy God complex that spills over into their social lives.

25.Any white guy who busts into ghettochat just because he plays b-ball, knows guys who work the door, or listens to jazz.

26.The never-been-married post 40-year-old man whom romantically claims to still want a wife and kids. He's holding out for an imaginary perfect 10 and will never be happy.

27.Any guy that a) has a musical instrument but has never played professionally (save for the acoustic guitar because that's just HOT), b) has a canvas and paints but never been in a gallery, c) has truffle oil but is not a chef at a restaurant; he is only marginally talented, and you'll be forced to enjoy his "talents" in awe for too long.

28.The guy who openly deprecates gifts of jewelry; he thinks every girl is after his money even though he doesn't earn half as much as most men in Manhattan. He's not WORTH your time.

29.He claims to be a metrosexual aloud. He's gay.

30.He stares in the mirror. He's not only, as you would suspect, obsessed with his looks; he's trying to casually check out the other woman across the bar. He'll never be satisfied with just you.

31.He already knows the words to Gavin DeGraw songs. He's too effeminate to spank you in bed.

32.He's obsessed with his balls because he's got nothing else going on.
Men with bottles of "thinning hair" shampoos and sprays. He likely takes Propecia and has no seex drive.

33.A man who excuses himself from the table, saying he has to "tinkle." Oy.

34.When you're upset over something he has done, he claims, "But I'm just a dumb boy, not worthy of your emotions." Believe him.

35.He's sensitive and wants to talk about your relationship all the time.

36.Thread count notwithstanding, some things are just too soft, and soft doesn't do us much good in the bedroom. I don't care what he's read in Cosmo.

37.A man who trims. Hoping it will look bigger; but, here's a newsflash, it'll always feel small.

38.A man who when you mention Astroglide replies, "Oooh, the one with the purple cap? That shit's the bomb."

39.Anyone who says, "the bomb," "nizzle," or "bi-atch."

40.If he shaves, waxes, or lazers his arms, legs, or chest and isn't a professional swimmer or diver, swim away.

41.Any man who wears a class ring, pinky ring, or metal necklace. Run.
He quotes Shakespeare, reads the Iliad for fun, and doesn't just own, but uses, drink coasters. He'll want to see your wedding dress before you actually buy it to ensure it's up to snuff.

42.He has a subscription to Maxim or Gay Men's Health; he's still in college.

43.If when you go out for sushi, he always orders chicken teriyaki, you've got a chicken shit on your hands with no sense of adventure.

44.Avoid any man who speaks with his mother more than twice a week; he might as well still be milking.

45.He invests in a Sports Club L.A. membership to only use the elliptical and treadmill. He's shallow, and his idea of introspection is picking his nose.

46."Wait did I tell you this already?" is his code for "I'm dating a lot of other women, even though I'm going to pretend we're exclusive by avoiding 'the talk.'"

47.He says "fine" then sleeps with the ex-girlfriend that broke his heart.

Hope you enjoyed.

It's Beginning to Feel a lot like.....SUMMER

So it's December 12th and it feels more like June 12th outside. I'm hoping maybe this means by the time Christmas comes a cold front will have come in and maybe just possibly we will have snow for the first Christmas in a LONG time. I always loved Christmas as a child, but as I have gotten older I just don't get in the spirit as much as I used to. I guess maybe because it comes so fast and then it's over before we know it. The stores start with Christmas decorations before Halloween has even passed and it kind of just ruins my Christmas spirit. Not only that but the more times I tell someone I hope they have a Merry Christmas I get a response that they don't celebrate Christmas. Does anyone know how to tell if someone celebrates Christmas, if so I'd really like for you share it with me. I always felt you should say Merry Christmas if that is what you celebrate, but maybe I'm wrong. The other day I thought I'd play it safe and say happy holidays and the lady told me "you don't say happy holidays you say Merry Christmas." So the next go around I said Merry Christmas and the response I got was "I don't celebrate Christmas I'm a Jehovah's Witness." I just can't win. I guess I may need to stick to happy holidays. Either way I'm ready for it to be here or should I say as ready as I'm going to be.

In the spirit of Christmas I will say I do enjoy the Christmas lights that is one of my favorite parts of the holiday season. Ever since I was young I always hated the big bulbed lights I always thought they were so damn tacky. I guess its a personal issue. I realized a few years ago what I hate more than the big bulbed lights are the blue lights. If you are going for the after hours night club effect by all means hang on, but when did blue represent Christmas. Now maybe they were designed for Hanukkah since it seems to me blue is the signature color to represent that, but aren't they called "Christmas" lights? If so that blows that whole theory out the window. Now what's even worse than the blue lights are the blue flashing lights. As if you didn't draw enough attention to your house with the blue lights the flashing is just unnecessary. If I wanted to look at blue flashing lights I'd take myself down to the block in the middle of the summer and watch all the idiots that get pulled over. Here I go with my pet peeves again. I'm done ranting for now. So Merry Christmas, and if you have blue lights hanging outside your house shame on you, next year invest in some new lights preferable in white or multi-color.

FYI too many lights are unnecessary also, please see photo for details:

I apologize in advance if I offended anyone in the making of this blog. I'm telling you what others won't sorry I'm honest. If it makes you feel any better you are not alone there are 4 houses with in one block of mine with blue and/or big bulbed lights.

I'm Not a Military Wife.....But I Respect Those Who Serve

I was sitting alone in one of those loud, casual steak houses that you find all over the country.

You know the type--a bucket of peanuts on every table, shells littering the floor, and a bunch of perky college kids racing around with long neck beers and sizzling platters.
Taking a sip of my iced tea, I studied the crowd over the rim of my glass. My gaze lingered on a group enjoying their meal. They wore no uniform to identify their branch of service, but they were definitely "military:" clean shaven, cropped haircut, and that "squared away" look that comes with pride.
Smiling sadly, I glanced across my table to the empty seat where my husband usually sat. It had only been a few months since we sat in this very booth, talking about his upcoming deployment to the Middle East. That was when he made me promise to get a sitter for the kids, come back to this restaurant once a month and treat myself to a nice steak. In turn he would treasure the thought of me being here, thinking about him until he returned home .
I fingered the little flag pin I constantly wear and wondered where he was at this very moment. Was he safe and warm? Was his cold any better? Were my letters getting through to him?
As I pondered these thoughts, high pitched female voices from the next booth broke into my thoughts. "I don't know what Bush is thinking about. Invading Iraq. You'd think that man would learn from his old man's mistakes. Good lord. What an idiot! I can't believe he is even in office. You do know, he stole the election."

I cut into my steak and tried to ignore them, as they began an endless tirade running down our president. I thought about the last night I spent with my husband, as he prepared to deploy. He had just returned from getting his smallpox and anthrax shots. The image of him standing in our kitchen packing his gas mask still gives me chills. Once again the women's voices invaded my thoughts.

"It is all about oil, you know. Our soldiers will go in and rape and steal all the oil they can in the name of 'freedom'. Hmmm! I wonder how many innocent people they'll kill without giving it a thought? It's pure greed, you know."

My chest tightened as I stared at my wedding ring. I could still see how handsome my husband looked in his "mess dress" the day he slipped it on my finger. I wondered what he was wearing now. Probably his desert uniform, affectionately dubbed "coffee stains" with a heavy bulletproof vest over it.

"You know, we should just leave Iraq alone. I don't think they are hiding any weapons. In fact, I bet it's all a big act just to increase the president's popularity. That's all it is, padding the military budget at the expense of our social security and education. And, you know what else? We're just asking for another 9-11. I can't say when it happens again that we didn't deserve it."

Their words brought to mind the war protesters I had watched gathering outside our base. Did no one appreciate the sacrifice of brave men and women, who leave their homes and family to ensure our freedom? Do they even know what "freedom" is? I glanced at the table where the young men were sitting, and saw their courageous faces change. They had stopped eating and looked at each other dejectedly, listening to the women talking.

"Well, I, for one, think it's just deplorable to invade Iraq, and I am certainly sick of our tax dollars going to train professional baby-killers we call a military."

Professional baby-killers? I thought about what a wonderful father my husband is, and of how long it would be before he would see our children again. That's it! Indignation rose up inside me. Normally reserved, pride in my husband gave me a brassy boldness I never realized I had. Tonight one voice will answer on behalf of our military, and let her pride in our troops be known.

Sliding out of my booth, I walked around to the adjoining booth and placed my hands flat on their table. Lowering myself to eye level with them, smilingly said, "I couldn't help overhearing your conversation. You see, I'm sitting here trying to enjoy my dinner alone. And, do you know why? Because my husband, whom I love with all my heart, is halfway around the world defending your right to say rotten things about him." "Yes, you have the right to your opinion, and what you think is none of my business. However, what you say in public is something else, and I will not sit by and listen to you ridicule MY country, MY president, MY husband, and all the other fine American men and women who put their lives on the line, just so you can have the "freedom" to complain. Freedom is an expensive commodity, ladies. Don't let your actions cheapen it."

I must have been louder that I meant to be, because the manager came over to inquire if everything was all right. "Yes, thank you," I replied. Then, turning back to the women, I said, "Enjoy the rest of your meal."

As I returned to my booth applause broke out. I was embarrassed for making a scene, and went back to my half eaten steak. The women picked up their check and scurried away.

After finishing my meal, and while waiting for my check, the manager returned with a huge apple cobbler ala mode. "Compliments of those soldiers," he said. He also smiled and said the ladies tried to pay for my dinner, but that another couple had beaten them to it. When I asked who, the manager said they had already left, but that the gentleman was a veteran, and wanted to take care of the wife of "one of our boys."

With a lump in my throat, I gratefully turned to the soldiers and thanked them for the cobbler. Grinning from ear to ear, they came over and surrounded the booth. "We just wanted to thank you, ma'am. You know we can't get into confrontations with civilians, so we appreciate what you did."

As I drove home, for the first time since my husband's deployment, I didn't feel quite so alone. My heart was filled with the warmth of the other diners who stopped by my table, to relate how they, too, were proud of my husband, and would keep him in their prayers. I knew their flags would fly a little higher the next day. Perhaps they would look for more tangible ways to show their pride in our country, and the military who protect her. And maybe, just maybe, the two women who were railing against our country, would pause for a minute to appreciate all the freedom America offers, and the price it pays to maintain it's freedom. As for me, I have learned that one voice CAN make a difference. Maybe the next time protesters gather outside the gates of the base where I live, I will proudly stand on the opposite side with a sign of my own. It will simply say, "Thank You!"

To those who fought for our Nation: Freedom has a flavor the protected will never know. GOD BLESS AMERICA! Please pray for God's protection of our troops and HIS wisdom for their commanders. Lord, hold our troops in your loving hands. Protect them as they protect us. Bless them and their families for the selfless acts they perform for us in our time of need. I ask this in the name of Jesus, our Lord and Savior." When you receive this, please stop for a moment and say a prayer for our ground, air and navy personnel in every area of the middle east. Of all the gifts you could give to anyone in the US Military, be it Air Force, Army, Navy, Marines or National Guard, Prayer is the very best one.....Amen .

What Would They Do Without Me

Well it's almost 2:30 AM and I can't sleep so what better to do than write. Right? So as I sit here reflecting on my day I can't help but laugh. I took the day off not called in or anything I submitted my day off request about 3 months ago for today is it was approved and so everything was set. I had a friend going through some things and she had asked me to be there for her today, needless to say she recently got a new boyfriend and along the way has apparently forgot about the friends she had before then. So I guess she really didn't need me after all. If you know my job then you know for the past year we have been under staffed and taking a day off was pretty much out of the question. Now I have always considered myself a hard worker I go to work every day no questions asked. I even got really sick twice this year and still went in because I knew they needed me there. So today I figured since I had gotten the day approved even though I wasn't going with my friend I just take it. We all need a break from time to time so I thought what the heck. Well I made it till about 3 PM before work called. The needed me to come in. Go figure. My co-worker called the conversation went as follows....."Kristin I need you to come in we have a patient that needs a treatment plan and it can't wait till tomorrow she needs it now cause she needs to make a decision by Monday on if she wants to do the treatment." Puzzled at this point I'm thinking to myself she needs to make a decision by Monday but it can't wait till tomorrow. So I say " You can't put the treatment plan in the computer?" she responds "I don't know how." Mind you she was doing the treatment plans before I started working there but she doesn't know how today. I realize it isn't worth arguing over so I tell them give me 20 minutes and I'll be there. I get to work as I walk in I hear that the phone is on hold go figure something else they need me to handle. I take care of the phone I put in the treatment plan, then they come to the front and ask can I call and order them some lunch. Really I got called in on my day off to order lunch? Hell no I can't order your lunch are your fingers broken, do you not know how to dial a phone today either? Now don't get me wrong I love the girls I work with to death but I was a little put out by this point. They can't be serious. As I finally make my way to my desk I look up to find an army of post it notes plastered all around apparently nobody knew how to do anything today. Every note was something I needed to handle. Some as simple as changing the spelling on someones last name in the computer. What the hell. I know I can look at this situation two ways, one its job security I know they need me there which is a good thing, or two I can be mad. I guess in a sense I was a little put out by the fact I had to go in on my day off I mean it's called a vacation day for a reason right? I'm over it now I stepped up to my responsibility but I can't help but wonder what would they do without me?

What Annoys You?

So we all have our pet peeves, annoyances, what are some of yours? I'll give you a list of the things that bother/annoy me maybe we have some in common. What annoys me more than anything and trust me there is a lot I'm sure I won't come up with them all right now but here is what I have so far:

When you allow someone to merge into your lane or out in front of you and they don't acknowledge it as if it were owed to them.

When you are sitting in traffic and a lane is merging not suddenly but a mile and a half ahead and that one car speeds up in the final moments to try in cut you off to gain what a few car links of traffic.

People who chew with their mouths open.

Rush Hour.

Virginia drivers in the rain, snow, sleet, etc.

People who can't tell the truth if their life depended on it.

Wrong numbers in the middle of the night.

TELEMARKETERS on my cell phone when my numbers on the do not call list (although I should sympathize because I did that for a while in high school and college)

Impatient people

People who never make it ANYWHERE on time.

Part time friends

The fact that more and more children don't understand the meaning behind Christmas because they think it's just about presents and Santa Claus.

People who can't talk on the phone and drive at the same time, stay off the phone if you can't multitask safely.

Fathers/Mothers who don't take care of their children.

My Deadbeat dad

People who try to push their views and beliefs on you.

People who come from nothing and don't make an attempt to better themselves.

People who think it's OK to collect a check and not work.

People who fraud the welfare system.

A thief

Crooked cops/police who take the power to their head.

VDOT and all the road construction they take 20 years to complete.

The fact that pretty soon Hampton Roads won't have a tree left if we keep building like we are.

People who think the world owes them something.

Children who disrespect their parents.

Spoiled snoody acting rich kids, because that's how their parents act and they learn from example.

Men who think a woman's role is in the kitchen, and women who agree with that.

Irresponsibility

People who change who they are in front of other people.

Drunken idiots.

Cheap tippers-I've never even waited tables but I am a firm believer that you tip well if you can't afford to tip eat at home.

People who confirm their dentist appointment and still don't show up.

People who don't value others time.

Pop-up ads on the Internet.

The price of Gas.

Men who disrespect women.

Women who keep their kids from their fathers when they want to be a part of their child's life. Or women who use their children as pawns like its a game of chess.

Spongebob Squarepants-Only because no matter what time of day we turn to cartoons for the kids at work it is ALWAYS on.

Our justice system. That money buys freedom and people who kill get less time than people who steal.

People who talk politics but don't vote.

When someone says they'll call back and don't.

That the Hills ends at the good part every episode.

Cigarette smoke.

Ok I think I've gone on long enough now give me some of yours what really annoys the living daylights out of you? If anymore come to mind I will be sure to post somemore.

God vs. Science....What a Powerful Message

I know I already posted a blog today but these were both such powerful reads I had to share them both.





A science professor begins his school year with a lecture to the students, "Let me explain the problem science has with religion." The atheist professor of philosophy pauses before his class and then asks one of his new students to stand.

"You're a Christian, aren't you, son?"

"Yes sir," the student says.

"So you believe in God?"

"Absolutely."

"Is God good?"

"Sure! God's good."

"Is God all-powerful? Can God do anything?"

"Yes."

"Are you good or evil?""The Bible says I'm evil."The professor grins knowingly. "Aha! The Bible!" He considers for a moment.

"Here's one for you. Let's say there's a sick person over here and you can cure him. You can do it. Would you help him? Would you try?"

"Yes sir, I would."

"So you're good...!"

"I wouldn't say that."

"But why not say that? You'd help a sick and maimed person if you could. Most of us would if we could. But God doesn't."

The student does not answer, so the professor continues. "He doesn't, does he?
My brother was a Christian who died of cancer, even though he prayed to Jesus to heal him.

How is this Jesus good? Hmmm? Can you answer that one?"

The student remains silent.

"No, you can't, can you?" the professor says. He takes a sip of water from a glass on his desk to give the student time to relax.

"Let's start again, young fella. Is God good?"

"Er...yes," the student says.

"Is Satan good?"

The student doesn't hesitate on this one.

"No."

"Then where does Satan come from?"

The student falters.
"From God"

"That's right. God made Satan, didn't he? Tell me, son. Is there evil in this world?"

"Yes, sir."

"Evil's everywhere, isn't it? And God did make everything, correct?"

"Yes.""So who created evil?" The professor continued, "If God created everything, then God created evil, since evil exists, and according to the principle that our works define who we are, then God is evil."Again, the student has no answer. "Is there sickness? Immorality? Hatred? Ugliness? All these terrible things, do they exist in this world?"The student squirms on his feet.

"Yes."

"So who created them?"The student does not answer again, so the professor repeats his question. "Who created them?" There is still no answer.

Suddenly the lecturer breaks away to pace in front of the classroom. The class is mesmerized. "Tell me," he continues onto another student. "Do you believe in Jesus Christ, son?"The student's voice betrays him and cracks.

"Yes, professor, I do."

The old man stops pacing. "Science says you have five senses you use to identify and observe the world around you. Have you ever seen Jesus?"

"No sir. I've never seen Him."

"Then tell us if you've ever heard your Jesus?"

"No, sir, I have not."

"Have you ever felt your Jesus, tasted your Jesus or smelt your Jesus? Have you ever had any sensory perception of Jesus Christ, or God for that matter?"

"No, sir, I'm afraid I haven't."

"Yet you still believe in him?"

"Yes."

"According to the rules of empirical, testable, demonstrable protocol, science says your God doesn't exist. What do you say to that, son?"

"Nothing," the student replies. "I only have my faith."

"Yes, faith," the professor repeats. "And that is the problem science has with God. There is no evidence, only faith."The student stands quietly for a moment, before asking a question of His own.

"Professor, is there such thing as heat?"

"Yes," the professor replies. "There's heat."

"And is there such a thing as cold?"

"Yes, son, there's cold too."

"No sir, there isn't."The professor turns to face the student, obviously interested. The room suddenly becomes very quiet. The student begins to explain.

"You can have lots of heat, even more heat, super-heat, mega-heat, unlimited heat, white heat, a little heat or no heat, but we don't have anything called 'cold'. We can hit up to 458 degrees below zero, which is no heat, but we can't go any further after that. There is no such thing as cold; otherwise we would be able to go colder than the lowest -458 degrees."

"Every body or object is susceptible to study when it has or transmits energy, and heat is what makes a body or matter have or transmit energy. Absolute zero (-458 F) is the total absence of heat. You see, sir, cold is only a word we use to describe the absence of heat. We cannot measure cold. Heat we can measure in thermal units because heat is energy. Cold is not the opposite of heat, sir, just the absence of it."Silence across the room. A pen drops somewhere in the classroom, sounding like a hammer."What about darkness, professor. Is there such a thing as darkness?"

"Yes," the professor replies without hesitation. "What is night if it isn't darkness?"

"You're wrong again, sir. Darkness is not something; it is the absence of something. You can have low light, normal light, bright light, flashing light, but if you have no light constantly you have nothing and it's called darkness, isn't it? That's the meaning we use to define the word."
"In reality, darkness isn't. If it were, you would be able to make darkness darker, wouldn't you?"

The professor begins to smile at the student in front of him. This will be a good semester. "So what point are you making, young man?"

"Yes, professor. My point is, your philosophical premise is flawed to start with, and so your conclusion must also be flawed."

The professor's face cannot hide his surprise this time. "Flawed? Can you explain how?"

"You are working on the premise of duality," the student explains. "You argue that there is life and then there's death; a good God and a bad God. You are viewing the concept of God as something finite, something we can measure. Sir, science can't even explain a thought."

"It uses electricity and magnetism, but has never seen, much less fully understood either one. To view death as the opposite of life is to be ignorant of the fact that death cannot exist as a substantive thing. Death is not the opposite of life, just the absence of it."

"Now tell me, professor. Do you teach your students that they evolved from a monkey?"

"If you are referring to the natural evolutionary process, young man, yes, of course I do."

"Have you ever observed evolution with your own eyes, sir?"The professor begins to shake his head, still smiling, as he realizes where the argument is going. A very good semester, indeed."

Since no one has ever observed the process of evolution at work and cannot even prove that this process is an on-going endeavor, are you not teaching your opinion, sir? Are you now not a scientist, but a preacher?"

The class is in uproar. The student remains silent until the commotion has subsided."To continue the point you were making earlier to the other student, let me give you an example of what I mean."The student looks around the room. "Is there anyone in the class who has ever seen the professor's brain?" The class breaks out into laughter."Is there anyone here who has ever heard the professor's brain, felt the professor's brain, touched or smelt the professor's brain? No one appears to have done so. So, according to the established rules of empirical, stable, demonstrable protocol, science says that you have no brain, with all due respect, sir."


"So if science says you have no brain, how can we trust your lectures, sir?"Now the room is silent. The professor just stares at the student, his face unreadable.Finally, after what seems an eternity, the old man answers.

"I guess you'll have to take them on faith."

"Now, you accept that there is faith, and, in fact, faith exists with life," the student continues. "Now, sir, is there such a thing as evil?"Now uncertain, the professor responds,

"Of course, there is. We see it everyday. It is in the daily example of man's inhumanity to man. It is in the multitude of crime and violence everywhere in the world. These manifestations are nothing else but evil."To this the student replied,


"Evil does not exist sir, or at least it does not exist unto itself. Evil is simply the absence of God. It is just like darkness and cold, a word that man has created to describe the absence of God. God did not create evil. Evil is the result of what happens when man does not have God's love present in his heart. It's like the cold that comes when there is no heat or the darkness that comes when there is no light."The professor sat down.

For the Fallen Ones....Worthy of Sharing

CHRISTMAS AT ARLINGTON CEMETERY
I wonder why the press hasn't enlightened the public about it?

Arlington National Cemetery


Rest easy, sleep well my brothers.
Know the line has held, your job is done.
Rest easy, sleep well.
Others have taken up where you fell, the line has held.
Peace, peace, and farewell...




Readers may be interested to know that these wreaths -- some 5,000 -- are donated by the Worcester Wreath Co. of Harrington, Maine. The owner, Merrill Worcester, not only provides the wreaths, but covers the trucking expense as well. He's done this since 1992. A wonderful guy. Also, most years, groups of Maine school kids combine an educational trip to DC with this event to help out. Making this even more remarkable is the fact that Harrington is in one the poorest parts of the state.


You hear too much about the bad things people do. Everyone should hear about this.

Best Friends

I know I have been missing in action for a few days, but I'm back now. In all honesty I spent the weekend doing pretty much nothing. My house was pretty quite minus the dog and the cat who seem to make a lot more noise than you would ever expect. I did however get out on Friday night to spend sometime with my 2 best friends ever. Katy and Chablis. I never realize how much I miss them until we are together, whether it's having a meal together or just hanging out for girls night at Katy's house I really cherish the time we spend together. I think I laugh harder when I'm with them than anyone else. These two women have been my support system for many years and I hope they both know how much I love them. We don't get to see each other as often as any of us would like but when we do get together it is always a good time. Katy always tells me she lives through me, I always have a story to tell and after a couple weeks of not seeing each other chances are I have a whole lot of stories to tell. I guess maybe I lead an interesting life. Or maybe just in her eyes. I am so fortunate to have friends like them in my life. It's interesting to me that at one point in time someone credited themselves with us being friends, funny thing is that person is no longer in any of our lives and we are closer now than ever.

Katy you are the best friend anyone could ever ask for, you are by far the greatest mother I have seen, not only have you gone above and beyond for your children you always do it with a smile on your face and a heart full of love. Your compassion for other people never seems to amaze me. Your faith in God and your relationship with your family is something I admire. You love big and hard and always look for the positive in everything and everybody. That is a characteristic I have definitely learned from watching you. You by far make the prettiest babies ever and I love all of your children just as much as I do you. You are truly a perfect example of a friend, we have seen some one the best times of our lives and definitely some of our worst times together and in the meantime have bonded because of them. You will never know how grateful I am for having you in my life and you are for sure someone I never want to lose. I know you never get my soft side so here it is, I wanted you to know how much you really mean to me. We have had almost 10 years of a wonderful friendship and I hope you are here for all the rest of my years too. You deserve only the best in life because that is what you give to everyone you know.

Chablis my whiteness, it's you black sister here talking to you. :) You know I had to go there with you, where do I start. You are my other best friend ever. I love you for so many reasons I don't know where to begin. You are my always keeps it real never holds anything back, I'm telling you because I'm you friend best friend. I have so much respect for you, you are head strong and opinionated but you know what you want. Whether it be in the man you date or the decisions you make you always know what's important. Your family too is very important to you and I respect that. You know maybe that's why we get along so well we are all very close with our families but you know I truly believe that's where it begins. I know I can come to you about anything and you will tell me what I need to hear not what I want to hear and this mean so much. You and I could get in so much trouble together and we know that so it's probably better that we only get to see each other on occasions. lol You are my 3 AM oops I didn't mean to call or text you girl. You are the only one who can get away with that by the way. It somehow seems that we keep Katy educated and up to date on things she may otherwise not know. You are my sister at heart or should I say sista. Yeah we vibe like that others just don't understand it. But I love you girl and I hope you know that.

It means so much to me to have the both of you in my life and I know it goes unsaid sometimes so I just wanted to let the two of you know how much you really mean to me. I value the friendships we have so much and I feel so blessed to know and be a part of each of your lives.

~ FRIENDS ~As we walk our path of life,We meet people everyday. Most are simply met by chance.But, some are sent our way.
These become special friends Whose bond we can't explain; The ones who understand us And share our joy and pain.Their love contains no boundaries. So, even when we are apart. Their presence enhances us With a warmth felt in the heart.This love becomes a passageway,When even the miles disappear.And so, these friends, God sends our way,Remain forever near.

Everyday

You could have bowed out gracefully But you didn't You knew enough to know to leave well enough alone But you wouldn't I drive myself crazy trying to stay out of my own way The messes that i made But my secrets are so safe The only one who gets me Yeah, you get me It's amazing to me

How every day every day every day You save my life

I come around all broken down and crowded out And you are a comfort Sometimes the place I go is so deep and dark and desperate I don't know I don't know

How every day every day every day You save my life

Sometimes I swear I don't know if I am coming or going But you always say something without even knowing That I am hanging onto your words with all my might And it's alright Yeah I am alright For one more night

Every day Every day Every day Every day Every day Every day Every day Every day You save me You save me Na na na na na na-ah Every day Every day Every day Every day You save my life

Parents Help Your Children With Their Homework

Well a friend needed a laugh so here I am prepared to deliver. The following are all true facts although quite sad. My mom is a teacher and as many of you know the pressure has really been put on the teachers in the last few years. Between the SOL's and No child left behind it has really made the teachers jobs a lot more difficult. My mom's 4th grade class receives vocabulary words each week. The words are presented to the class the students learn the definitions of the words and they make sentences as a class. Then the students homework is to come up with their own sentences for the words. Here comes the importance of why the parents should be checking their children's homework. On two separate occasions my mom received papers the words and sentences were as follows:

Fortify-v to make strong

Sentence: I can count from fortify.

Derive-v the orgin or the source or development of

Sentence: My mom derived me around town in a car.


I will leave the children's names anonymous. Although this got great dinner time laughs it really is quite sad. I thought I had heard and seen it all, however shortly after my mom shared these with us I was driving through my neighborhood when I stopped at the stop sign I looked up to see, well you have to see it for yourself



I just couldn't help myself I immediately called my mom and said when you give that student their paper back can you ask if when their mom derived them around town in the car did they stop at the yard sell in my neighborhood. We both got a good laugh hope you did too.

Slow down and enjoy life

A friend shared this with me today and I thought I'd share it with you.


IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER - by Erma Bombeck (written after she found out she was dying from cancer).

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.

Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life anyone ever gets to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, "Later. Now go get washed up for dinner." There would have been more "I love you's." More "I'm sorry's."

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute...look at it and really see it ... live it .and never give it back.

Stop sweating the small stuff.

Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what.

Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us.

Let's think about what God HAS blessed us with. And what we are doing each day to promote ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, as well.

We have one shot at this and then it's gone. I hope you all have a blessed day.

How much is too much?

Have you ever missed someone so much it hurts?

Sometimes distance feels like the hardest thing to me, but I go on because I have to not always because I want to. Of course we have all missed someone at some time, but can you miss someone too much?

You miss your friends when they go away to college, you miss your family when they live away from where you are, you miss loved ones when they pass or maybe there are other circumstances for why you miss someone.

Sometimes the loneliness of not having your loved one there can be the hardest thing imaginable but you push on. I suppose I'll get a little personal today just because matters of the heart are what's on my mind. I guess I'm missing someone pretty badly and that is what has inspired this entry. Sometimes time and distance get the best of me however I try not to let it get me down. Some days are harder than others. I've always felt it cliche to say someone completes me because I'm a firm believer that no one completes another being, but when he's gone I feel a piece of me is gone too, so I guess maybe he does complete me.

When you find someone you can relate to who knows you inside and out who can speak the words you are thinking without you saying anything at all. The one you can confide in about anything at anytime and know you won't be judged or labeled for being who you are. I am so fortunate to have found him and even more fortunate to have establish the deepest understand that two people could have for one another. I feel truly blessed. Today I'm missing him more than usual maybe because it has been longer than usual since I've seen him I'm not really sure why I feel this way. I know though that we have the type of relationship where we can be apart for months and pick up as if we were together yesterday. I really cherish that.

Sometimes people cross our paths in the weirdest of ways but the friendships and relationships that come from those circumstances sometimes are the best relationships of your life. For me this holds true. I'm very grateful for him and everything I share with him. I'm really missing him today but that is nothing new I miss him everyday I'm not with him and as soon as I leave him. I'll push on today and tomorrow too because I know the bond we have with one another can't be broken by distance.

Officially Missing You

It's Only Tuesday People

Wow!!! It's only Tuesday and I just came back from 4 days off but I feel like I've been back to work for days. Despite the fact that the minutes are dragging by I can say I don't love my job so much today. Have you ever had someone come to your job or place of employment and try to educate you on your job? As if they were so qualified they should be doing it for you. I work in a dentist office for those who don't know and as any job with the public we get some characters. Someone who always thinks they know a little more than you. I had someone today try to convince me that their insurance doesn't work the same way as the rest of America's dental insurance does. Now I've been doing this job for quite some time and I must say dental insurance has ALWAYS worked the same way. After explaining for 45 minutes the same thing 5 different ways, I advised the patient to call her insurance company. ARGGG

Aggravated does not even begin to describe what I felt. Now I get this everyday, "that's free with my insurance", "I get 2 free cleanings a year", "what do you mean that's not covered at 100%". Let me educate some of you on dental insurance, it's not free first off, somewhere someone either you or your employer is paying for it, 2nd, nothing is free, incase you were unaware. I understand that the mouth is not as important to some as it is others but when you don't see a dentist for half your life chances are your toothache is not going to be a cheap fix. Even if you have seen a dentist it still isn't going to be a cheap fix.

Don't get me wrong I sympathize with some of these people I do, to be in pain is not a fun thing, but when you come in my office with a $400 handbag and your $200 hair highlights, fresh nails, or clothes that cost more than my car payment and then tell me how bad you hurt. I tell you the procedure is $850 and your insurance company pays all but $80 and you look at me like I'm crazy how bad does your tooth really hurt? There are a lot of patients who have good jobs that just don't offer dental insurance so be thankful your copay is only $80 and not $850. When I think how many times a day I hear that's too much I cringe, how much is too much when it comes to keeping your teeth? That Coach bag wasn't too much but a root canal is? Where is the logic in that? The other one that gets me is when a patient gets the work done then says oh I didn't know I was going to have to pay today. When you grocery shop do you get to the counter and say that, or do you say I only have $50 when your total is $150 and the cashier says that 's OK bring back the rest next time? No you would get $50 worth of groceries. Maybe I'm over reacting I agree the dentist isn't cheap, but your smile should be priceless you!

Sorry had to vent. Hope everyone is having a great day. I'm better now. :)

Lesson Learned

Ok so I'm new to the whole blogging world. I told myself I'd never do this but here I am. I must admit from time to time I blog on my myspace but who really reads those things. For entertainment purposes and a relief of stress it may be healthy for me to let my thoughts out. I never thought I'd be the one to air my business on a worldwide forum but hey it happens. I don't know where to start so I guess I'll start with today, as I rushed to get ready this morning (being as it was the Monday following a LONG holiday weekend) my time schedule is out of whack, it's time to get back into the swing of things it dawns on me what an idiot I was yesterday. Let me share my story with you. I'm not usually the type of person to purchase something then take it home and realize I don't want it anymore. I normally ponder that decision before make the purchase, however I guess you could say this weekend I made an impulse buy, it was only a purse but still if you know me you know I need another purse like I need another pair of shoes. It was really cute so I had to have it or so I thought. I took it home only to find what I already knew it was too small to hold the plethora of things I carry. After trying to cram everything I own in it, it was inevitable it just wouldn't work. So I took my things out reinserted the trash bag worth of paper, (that made me think the purse was much larger than it was) and returned it to the store . So today as I'm getting ready for work I realize not only did I return the purse but I also returned everything I had put in the inside pocket. At this time I frantically panic, the contents of that pocket were extremely important lets just say. So I rush to the store crossing my fingers and hoping that the purse will still be there. It was a cute purse the only one left I might add and I knew it was a shot in the dark to believe that my belongings would still be in it. As I race through the door of the store at 8:45 am knowing I have to be at work in 15 minutes and praying still that I'll find what I came for I have to decide do I go to customer service and waste my time explaining or do I just go check and see if the purse is back on the shelf, I pick the shelf as I make my way I see it, could it really be the one I returned, I open it to find all of my things just where I left them. I learned to valuable lessons today never put everything in a purse you're unsure of and Target doesn't check it's returns before they restock the shelves. Either way I'm thankful I found what I was looking for, and more grateful that I wasn't accused of stealing my own belongings back.